Mastering the Art of overcoming Overthinking

Kapil Raj
4 min readSep 23, 2023

In the intricate dance of existence, our minds play a pivotal role in shaping our perceptions, reactions, and reality itself. Each interaction and experience we encounter contributes to the complex tapestry of our thoughts, defining our actions, behaviors, and ultimately, our identity. The ceaseless operation of our minds is an undeniable fact, and understanding its intricacies is key to leading a balanced life. This article explores the concept of overthinking, its impact on our well-being, and offers practical strategies to regain control over our thoughts and emotions.

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The Overthinking Dilemma

In our fast-paced, complex world, the prevalence of stress and overthinking has become an almost inevitable reality. The advice we often hear is simple: “Don’t overthink.” However, in a society where everyone seems to be racing, and conflicting interests abound, this is easier said than done.

We find ourselves bombarded by negativity in various forms, as industries use fear to capture our attention and sell their products, often disregarding the toll it takes on our mental well-being.

I can personally relate to the struggle of battling emotional vulnerability and relentless overthinking. After conflicts, be they verbal or non-verbal, I would spend sleepless nights caught in a cycle of repetitive thoughts and mental debates. This relentless over analysis led to lowered self-esteem, an inability to focus on work, and perpetual headaches. In this article, I share simple yet effective tips to help you combat overthinking and regain control over your emotions.

Engage in Activities You Love

One unexpected but highly effective strategy to combat overthinking is to indulge in activities you love. Whether it’s treating yourself to your favorite dish at a local restaurant, taking a leisurely stroll in the park, or simply chatting with a close friend, these actions serve to break the cycle of relentless rumination. While this isn’t a definitive solution, it’s a crucial first step.

Personally, I find solace in photography, capturing moments on the streets, which provides much-needed respite from overthinking.

Put Your Thoughts on Paper

Even if you’re not a seasoned writer, jotting down your conflicts, the people involved, and your desires can be immensely helpful. Whether you use bullet points or a digital document, the act of writing forces you to organize and align your thoughts with your emotions. This connection facilitates focused problem-solving. Picture hundreds of thoughts and scenarios versus a handful that genuinely impact your well-being. A bonus tip: revisit your notes after a few hours or, preferably, the next day.

Adopt a Third Eye Perspective

Imagine your conflicts, circumstances, and reasons for overthinking from an outsider’s viewpoint. Consider the advice you’d give to a friend facing a similar situation. Visualize how individuals you respect, such as a family member or friend, would react. In most cases, barring catastrophic situations, there are viable solutions that can be reached with a positive mindset. Often, we become entangled in negativity, preventing us from thinking clearly. This exercise chips away at the monolithic wall of overthinking, offering solutions that rekindle your energy and optimism.

Take Thoughtful Action

Contrary to popular belief, thinking is crucial, especially in situations like starting a business, dealing with relationship issues, or resolving conflicts. It’s natural to ponder the consequences and plan your next steps.

Catchphrases like “don’t worry” or “stop thinking and act” oversimplify the complexity of decision-making. Instead, strike a balance.

Identify the fine line between contemplation and action. Rushing into decisions while in an emotionally fragile state can be equally detrimental. Take control and act responsibly when addressing your conflicts.

Seek Support

Finally, if despite your best efforts, you find yourself unable to break free from the cycle of overthinking, do not hesitate to seek help. Society often attaches shame and stigma to reaching out for support, particularly in cultures where personal matters are expected to remain within the confines of one’s home. However, it’s time to unlearn these old patterns. Consulting friends, trusted individuals, or seeking the guidance of counselors is a far healthier approach than enduring endless inner turmoil.

..thinking is not the issue; losing control over our thoughts is.


In the grand scheme of things, thinking is not the issue; losing control over our thoughts is. Embrace whatever it takes to reintroduce positivity into your life. Remember, this is your life, and you have every right to lead a balanced, joyful existence. Yet, it’s important to acknowledge that this isn’t an easy feat. It requires continuous mental training to navigate and conquer life’s challenges.

I invite you to share your personal strategies for conquering recurring thoughts in the comments below. Let us embark on this journey to inner peace together, knowing that we have the power to regain control over our minds. Stay safe and find your peace.

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Kapil Raj

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